How do you deal with a whiny kid? I know, that sounds horrible, but my daughter is a whiner. I’ve tried everything that I can think of to stop her from whining, but every day she finds something to whine about. If she’s 8 years old and whining this much, what’s it going to be like when she’s a teenager? I’m losing my mind.
Whine Crazed Dear Crazed,
My suggestion? If she whines, ignore her and tell her to think about how she’s talking to you. Give her time to figure out how to talk to you in a more respectful manner and then try to ask again. If she asks something maturely and you agree, reward her. If she asks something maturely, and you don’t agree — you in return need to explain why you’re still saying no.
Here is an example: Daughter: “Moooooom, I want to go outside and ride bikes.
You: “I don’t want to hear whining, think about how an 8 year-old would ask me to play outside.”
Her: “Mom, can I please go outside to play?”
You: “Yes, but please stay where I can see you, you will need to come inside when the street light comes on.” Or “Not right now honey, it’s getting dark outside and you need to get ready for bed.”
When you say no to her and she still whines, send her to her room. You need to make it clear that you will not tolerate whining. And here’s the kicker, you need to stick with your guns. Don’t give into whining. If you say no, you mean no. Good luck.
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