I donít understand why my husband never helps out around the house. I donít feel like I should have to nag him to pick up while Iím dealing with the kids. We both work long hours (I work nights) and I feel like we should share the burden of cleaning the house. When Iím trying to catch up on sleep, I also have to keep an eye out on the kids while heís at work. The kids are too little to help out and would probably make a bigger mess if they did. While Iím at work he puts the kids to bed and should have enough time to tidy up. Just once Iíd like to come home from working the night shift to a CLEAN house. What gives? How do I get him to help out?
It sounds like you guys work different shifts to be able to care for the kids. This is fine, but it also can be very stressful as each one of you has your own way of doing things. There really isnít any teamwork involved in your relationship other than the high five you give each other when you trade jobs from parents to employees. In my opinion, you guys should spend some time trying to figure out how the two of you can work together to take care of the kids, the house and the bills.
Have you made a list of to-dos? That may help. Write what needs to be done; laundry, kitchen needs sweeping, vacuum, bathe the kids, ect. Write the list out and do a portion of it, when done, cross through the chore. When you switch out parenting duties, heíll see what you did by looking at the list and may finish the rest. But you have to show him what needs to be done, heís not a mind reader Ö or at least thatís what Iím assuming.
I write lists all the time. It helps me stay on track and get things done. The Family likes it as well, we can actually see progress in the chore list and get satisfaction when crossing off a to-do item. Give it a try, it may help you out. But remember, you have to talk to him and ask him for help. Good luck.
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