I donít know when it happened or how it happened, but the idea that apologizing or admitting when youíre wrong is a sign of weakness is a myth.
When did it become so uncool to take responsibility for a mistake? Has the ability to apologize died?
Mistakes are a part of life and they happen daily to the best of us. I have been a part of many and will continue to do so as a human. I have hurt Family and friends, but the great thing about making a mistake is I have the opportunity to atone for it immediately and make stronger bonds because I learn from the mistakes I make.
I have been fortunate in life that I have great Family and friends who have stuck by me even when I was a knucklehead and didnít step up to admit my own faults right away. Those who are close to me make it important for me to not only be an example as one who will take responsibility for my mistakes, but their feelings are important to me.
To this date, I know of no scientific evidence that shows apologizing hurts. Itís a myth that there should be a period of time before you apologize. If you know your actions hurt someone, then step up and say you are sorry and start working towards mending feelings.
The idea that an apology is supposed to mend the feelings of those who have been hurt is not necessarily the case. To say Iím sorry isnít about removing the hurt right then, itís to let the person know you care enough to say, ďI was wrong and I want to let you know that and can you find it in your heart to forgive me.Ē
The road to forgiveness may not happen right away and it may take time, but the words that start the process are available and at the ready anytime to anyone.