I think my eldest son is jealous of our new baby. I don’t understand why because he already has a little brother … I don’t know if it because now he has a baby sister or what, but he’s been acting out ever since she was born. He doesn’t want to hold her, he yells at her when she cries and he never wants to sit next to her. Are there any programs that the military offers for him? Or do I need to figure out a different plan?
The Army does have programs available for you. One of the first stops you may want to visit is the Family Advocacy Program which is committed to Family life and the needs of spouses, children and Soldiers. They have classes on parenting, communication, behavior and stress. For more information, visit www.fortbraggmwr.com/acs/family-advocacy/.
The military also offers counseling through chaplains, Military One Source, TRICARE, military Family life consultants and Womack Department of Social Work. For more information on counseling options, visit www.fortbraggmwr.com/acs/counseling-options/.
Additionally, there is a plethora of classes that Army Community Service offers. From parenting support groups to play groups to learning coping skills. The Army has come a long way from the times of “if the Army wanted you to have a Family, it would have issued one,” mindset. The Army wants Soldiers to succeed not only in the military, but in their Family unit as well.
I’m not an expert, but it sounds like your older boy is jealous of his little sister. He’s used to being an older brother, to a younger brother. A younger sister may seem strange to him and he may need to adjust. Take advantage of all the programs available to you and your Family through the military and see where it takes you. Good luck.
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