Someone you know or work with could be a victim of intimate partner abuse or what is called domestic violence. An estimated 10 million people are physically abused by their partner every year in the United States and domestic violence hotlines across the country receive 20,000 calls per day.

Male and female Airmen, Soldiers and civilians are being abused in our community every day. They are fighting over a message found on their partner’s cellphone, over fears of a break-up, over the bills and sometimes things may get physically violent. Often, males may not realize it is abuse or be embarrassed to admit it. Females are most often abused or the most badly hurt. Most of the time they will refuse to report or later deny it happened over fears about what else their partner might do or how speaking up might affect their military career.

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month — a time to reflect about how serious a problem this abuse is. Getting physically violent with your partner or repeatedly emotionally abusing them is a serious problem that cannot be left to solve itself.

Don’t be fooled into thinking every couple goes through this type of abuse now and then because that is untrue. It can and has led to death even in situations where that might never be.

Everyone plays a role in upholding military values and standards that support safe, healthy relationships in the military community. Without every one of us doing our part, we cannot say our community is fully ready to meet the mission of preventing domestic violence.

If you know of someone being abused and want to learn more about how to help or if you and your partner need help with your relationship, there is help right here at Fort Bragg.

Keep an eye out this month for information tables with the Army Community Service seal on them for tips on having safer arguments, deepening your relationship or finding private couples counseling.

Read the signs of an abusive relationship at this link: https://ncadv.org/learn-more.

If you or someone you know is being abused, contact the local Partner Abuse Hotline at (910) 322-3418 or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline to talk or ask about help at (800) 799-SAFE (7233). If you’re worried about privacy, you can remain anonymous and still get help.

Come up to ACS on the third floor of the Soldier Support Center for dates of upcoming free couples workshops. If you are separated or divorced and worried about the sharing of parenting duties, sign up for the free Co-Parenting When Divorced/Separated Workshop.